Not about LOVE.

So the problem is expectation?

That i have done this much & so I should be receiving this much. 

That I can’t even sleep -forget about sleeping , I can’t even let go of a night without solving our issues or making peace amongst ourselves?

 What!!? ??

Is this a girl problem?

Or is this the menace with someone’s personality? Okay then, I am literally despising my personality.

I was looking forward to- waiting for those calls and messages-asking me to stop throwing my attitude and talk. Talk. Talk. And talk. Bring out my anger. And maybe love. Bring out my frustration. And maybe patience, to handle these pathways of life. But!! I was really waiting..

But i guess..

Tables have turned. There are so many new things coming up. And then attention always goes to the recent ones- be it people or things. So! 
So guys.. here i am.. Writing this.. describing it to you people.. and and and

Hoping to feel better.

I think I should just sleep now. Nothing’s gonna happen : /

Goodnight,you guys!

Mooood . Swinging at its best.

Guys 

Do you also feel lonely most of the times-when  you “yourself” chose that way? Wierd. Very wierd.

Your friends are trying to talk to you, be with you- but you want to be alone . To spend time with yourself is your decision, but then why are you feeling depressed because of it? You want to have no one around but then you are sad because no one is actually around. Is this wierd thing happening just with me? Or someone else too is going through this or shares a similar experience . 

It’s so wierd. Lying in bed. Surfing different apps on your phone. Then Closing them the next minute. Closing your eyes, pretending to sleep & And Then getting back to them the next minute. 

What is happening god!

Where am i taking my life. Which is this path- that I don’t want to take  but am still forced to- by some super force. I feel like doing something productive & end up doing nothing: each day. This is definitely not the part that i wanted in my life. 

It’s not the laziness to blame.( I know you were about to point that, but trust me on this. It isn’t laziness.) It’s something with my mood. Something is stuck with it. I’m trying to improve but end up being same each day.

Is that a problem with Geminis only? Or it has got to do something with someone’s personality? 

Someone tell me, please.

 Today was still better guys!  I atleast invested 2 hours in something worthwhile. Something that i wanted to do from long. My god! Writing this actually made me realise that my whole day wasn’t actually a waste. I can never value small little things. So I’m still upset- plainly ignoring the fact that my today was a lil’ beter than yesterday. 

How does one do that- just being happy simply. Without any reason or materialistic means. Help me, you guys! 

My take on dating a ‘KEEPER’ ( for both guys and girls )

How are you doing guys? I hope everything is good as always!

Okay so this time i decided to write about something that has started bothering me a lot lately, each time i log into my social media accounts. I promise to at least show you a new perception, if not change your mind completely.

So recently, there has been an increase in number of memes like:

-girls who drink beer and go fishing are keepers.

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-guys who wear suits and ties are keepers.

-girls who drink coffee and can cook food are keepers.

And this amazing one

-guys who can comprehend your makeup skills  are keepers .

I thought to die after that. And then, this came :

-girl who serves you after you come home tired, are surely keepers!

And being honest with my readers, going by the image in that meme, serve there implied in every sense possible .

Wow!

And then,

-guys who listen to you patiently are keepers

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Really? What if what all i was talking went in with one ear and came out the other. You never know! He was patient, though!

I’ll be attaching some more interesting ones at the end of this post. Do have a look. And then forget them immediately.

All these posts and their creators and spreaders , who are trying their level best to pull me & millions of others on their side; well do you even realise what you people have done? You’ve created an ‘ideal’ perception of how my man should be or how i should be so that i can be readily accepted by someone . You are judging & probably only criticising my choice. You aren’t accepting my notion & the worst of all, not even letting me to.

So in case I fall for someone, I will have to belong to some sort of ‘keeper’ type to impress my  love? Even I’ll have to struggle to adjust with his habits and personality because what I have seen is that my ideal man should only have certain qualities to be called good enough or for that sake, even feel wanted. It’s  basically like a check list. So if he  texts me good morning and good night after waking up immediately and just before sleeping then he’s good to go! Since in accordance to what I’ve seen- my man’s first and last thought should be only about me. And now it’d trouble me if i get to know it isn’t going the way i have always imagined or thought off.

Stop, will you?

Who are you? My mom? My dad? Or my sibling( maybe I take their opinion on the D-day, maybe I don’t) – to discuss how my partner should be?

Why all this? To earn some likes and of course , popularity . Or maybe to humiliate your ex. Err..  i don’t know man!

Calm! Lemme just explore with what kinda people i would like and what kinda people i wouldn’t, instead of showing me ideal images-‘cz the truth is out . I’ll never get a perfect guy, since we all are humans and  humans have brains and emotions that can turn them into angels or demons or any damn thing in between. But i can surely get someone whom i can be happy with! Lemme just accept my man completely! If he can cook, that’d be like a bonus and even if he is impatient, maybe i can act a little more mature. At last, if we fight, we ought to come back to each other only because of the bond we create and the love that would blossom and not because of some damn fishing and cooking and alcohol habit that attracted me to him!

So now everyone, listen

You have to love that one person without any reason! Reasons can always flip and so can the person possessing them. These constantly nagging memes about those perfect keepers and what kind of a guy you should be with and what kinda girl would be able to keep you happy- shouldn’t  decide for you or opinionate you, even for a second.

Everyone needs love. So what if they don’t know how to prepare weed roles or like wearing jeans instead of suits and ties ? You fell for them because of nothing but just pure love they offered to you, right? So why are u unhappy if they aren’t matching with your keeper checklist? Or they refused to put up with the criteria that everyone’s putting around for judging everyone ? That’d be a different case if you don’t like a thing or two about them and wish if it could be changed! You can always try articulating it to them.. and i promise, they’ll become what you’ve always desired off.( Works only if love has mutually existed;though might take some time.) I call it imperfectly perfect! Everything your elders had ever told you about acceptance of that one person will eventually start making sense, including falling in love with those imperfections!

Just like –

Seeing you happy, makes me happy honey! Because I have always loved you and will always do..

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I believe social media has the power to influence people and bring change in them. It does affect us; maybe not that much on some days but highly on others, all depending on situation and mood. Remember this-

I don’t know how people put it in words so easily, all that i ever wanted to say. I can’t even understand sometimes my own thoughts !

Capitalise everything carefully. Believe in yourself and in people you love. Because love can move mountains and it shouldn’t be based on hollow or unachievable assumptions about your special ones!

Here are some more memes, check them out :

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And in ” Lilly singh’s” style, see you soon

LOVE LOVE!

EXPERIENCE OF BEING A GIRL ~

OKAY, SO WHERE DO I START? THIS INCIDENT HAPPENED WITH A CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE RECENTLY AND LEFT ME DISTURBED. SO IT GOES LIKE..

TARA, BEING A DELHI UNIVERSITY STUDENT WAS GETTING BORED IN HER ANNUAL POST EXAM BREAK. SO SHE DECIDED TO GO FOR A PAID INTERNSHIP THIS TIME TO POLISH HER SKILLS AND EARN A FEW BUCKS  AS WELL .SO SHE RANDOMLY GOT TO KNOW ABOUT THIS JOB VACANCY THROUGH HER AQUAINTANCE. SHE WAS GIVEN WITH THE BOSS’S CONTACT AND SHE BEING AN ENTHUSIASTIC KID, TEXTED THAT NUMBER AT THE DROP OF THE HAT.ON TEXTING SHE NOTICED HIS DISPLAY PICTURE THAT SHOWED THAT THIS MAN WAS POSSIBLY WITH THE AGE OF HER GRANDFATHER. SHE WAS COMFORTABLE WITH WHOME SHE WAS SEEING AS HER BOSS, SINCE IT WAS EASIER FOR HER TO WORK WITH ELDERLY PEOPLE. TO HER, IT MEANT A GOOD ENVIRONMENT.

NEXT CAME HER TELEPHONIC INTERVIEW FOR WHICH SHE HAD WAITED WITH BATED BREATHES. SHE WAS ASKED ABOUT HER FAVOURITE SUBJECTS AND OPINION ON CERTAIN ISSUES. EVERYTHING WAS GOING GOOD, UNTILL HE ABRUPTLY ASKED, ” ARE YOU OPEN MINDED?” TO WHICH SHE REPLIED WITH AFFIRMATION, NOT KNOWING EXACTLY WHAT TO SAY AND WHAT HE MEANT. NEXT HE ASKED IF SHE COULD TRAVEL TO OTHER CITIES FOR WORK, TO WHICH SHE DENIED AS IT WAS TOO EARLY FOR HER. NEXT DAY SHE WAS CALLED TO OFFICE.

I REMEMBER,WE MET ON THE SAME DAY. SHE HAD TOLD ME EVERYTHING AND THEN WE HAD DECIDED HER CLOTHING AND STUFF. SHE HAD ALSO TOLD ME ABOUT BEING ASKED IF SHE WAS OPEN MINDED OR NOT. I HAD REASSURED HER THAT IT MIGHT BE DUE TO WORKING ENVIRONMENT AND HIGH RATIO OF GUYS TO GIRLS MAYBE! THAT WAS ALL I COULD  MAKEOUT AT THAT MOMENT. RELAXED, SHE WENT HOME, REVISED HER SKILLS, WORKED ON HER C.V. AND SLEPT EARLY.

NEXT DAY SHE WENT TO THE OFFICE, WHICH WAS NOT FAR FROM OUR RESIDENTIAL AREA. EVERYTHING SEEMED A PLUS POINT- THE LOCATION, TIMING, SALARY.. EVERYTHING! SO IT BECAME EVEN MORE LUCRATIVE AND SHE WANTED TO GRAB THIS ONE AT ANY COST. 

ON REACHING THERE, SHE WAS ASKED TO WAIT FOR 10 MINUTES. PATIENTLY WAITING FOR HER TURN, SHE ADMIRED THE OFFICE BUILDING, THE FURNITURE AND WAS IMAGINING HER DESK POSITION AND HOW SHE’D PERSONALIZE IT. SOON AFTER, SHE WAS CALLED IN . PLEASANTRIES WERE EXCHANGED BEFORE SHE SAT DOWN WITH HER BOSS TO DISCUSS FINAL THINGS. SHE ASKED ABOUT THE NATURE OF WORK AND WAS SHOCKED, AND SO WILL YOU BE AFTER READING THIS . SO HERE’S THAT CONVO:
TARA: SO WHAT WOULD EXACTLY  BE                  MY WORK, SIR.

MR BOSS : I THOUGHT POOJA TOLD YOU                      EVERYTHING ?

TARA: NO SIR, SHE JUST GAVE ME YOUR              CONTACT AND ASKED ME TO                        TAKE THIS FURTHER. 

MR BOSS : OKAY, I’LL TELL YOU.  SO                              YOU HAVE TO STAY AS MY                            FRIEND SINCE MOST OF MY                          TIME IS SPENT IN THE OFFICE                      AND I FEEL LONELY OVER                              HERE. YOU WILL HAVE TO                            MEET ME OUTSIDE OFFICE                            ONCE IN A WEEK AND WE                              WILL BE GOING FOR MOVIES,                      AND IN MALLS AND FOR                                LUNCH AND BREAKFAST.                            YOU WILL HAVE TO BE MY                            COMPANION WHERE EVER I                          GO. YOU’RE SALARY WILL                              IMPROVE ACCORDING  TO                              YOUR FOCUS IN WORK (WITH                      THAT DIRTY SMILE) . YOU                              HAVE TO BE MY  SPECIAL                              FRIEND 😉                                            

TARA WAS DUMBSTRUCK. HE ASKED , IF SHE COULD JOIN IN BY TOMORROW,TO WHICH SHE REPLIED,”I’LL DISCUSS IT WITH MY FATHER AND THEN LET YOU KNOW”-NOT KNOWING WHAT ELSE TO SAY. HE MOCKINGLY SAID,” CAN YOU REALLY DISCUSS THIS ALL WITH YOUR FATHER ? AND WOULD HE AGREE?”  AND STARTED LAUGHING LOUNDLY. TARA FELT SO EMBARRASSING AND SCARED AT THE SAME TIME. ALL THE WIRES IN HER BRAIN WERE JAMMED. SHE COULDNT THINK OF ANYTHING & WAS WAITING FOR THIS ORDEAL TO END SO SHE COULD JUST RUN OUT OF THAT ‘OFFICE’. SHE WAS OUT BEFORE THE INK DRIED. LATER SHE CAME HOME AND TOLD ME ABOUT EVERYTHING , DESCRIBING ALL HER EMOTIONS AND EVERYTHING SHE WENT THROUGH. THEN SHE REMINDED ME ABOUT THE QUESTION THIS MAN HAD ASKED HER ON THE  TELEPHONIC ‘INTERVIEW’- THAT IF SHE COULD TRAVEL- NOW SHE UNDERSTOOD THE SENSE – EXPLAINING ME ABOUT HIS INTENTIONS OF ENJOYING WITH HER IN DIFFERENT CITIES.THIS WAS HIS CONCEPT OF BEING ‘OPEN MINDED’. 

IT WAS SO DISGUSTING. A MAN OF THE AGE OF YOUR GRANDFATHER WANTS TO KEEP YOU AS HIS FRIEND FOR HIS ENJOYMENT, POSSIBLY TRYING FOR SOME DIRTY MOVES. SUCH A CREEP. I GOT SO FURIOUS AND WE FIRED BACK AT POOJA ( TARA’S SO CALLED ACQUAINTANCE ). SHE WAS CLUELESS AND FELT SORRY FOR ENGAGING TARA INTO THIS. 

WE HAD SEEN SUCH INCIDENTS ONLY IN WEBISODES AND IT LEFT US MOVED. WE LAUGHED IT OFF AT LAST COUNTING IT AS YET ANOTHER PERK OF BEING A WOMAN.THANKS TO THE VARIETY OF JOBS WE ARE OFFERED.  

 TARA HAS NOW DROPPED THE IDEA OF  A JOB AT LEAST IN THESE NOT SO RENOWNED  PRIVATE FIRMS. 

What do you think about her reaction ?  She came back without saying this oldie even a word. What would have you done if you were in her position, ladies?

And to guys, cannot women be something more than your personal objects? If she’s a woman, don’t make this appear as her weakness. If she’s young and dynamic, her energies and creativities can be put to even better use than you Imaginations and dreams. 

Peace.